Normal Does Not Always Mean Safe
Sometimes I think about how easily people adapt to what is familiar.
Not because they choose to.
But because it becomes part of everyday life.
As a Deaf parent, I have spent time reflecting on how responsibility can slowly become normal.
A child helps.
Then helps again.
And eventually, nobody notices it happening anymore.
Not because anyone is uncaring.
But because what happens every day can quietly fade into the background.
The child may see it as normal.
The adults may see it as normal.
The responsibility may no longer stand out at all.
Yet familiarity does not always tell us whether something is fair.
And it does not always tell us whether something is safe.
The more I reflect on this, the more I believe that what feels ordinary deserves to be looked at with care.
Sometimes the things we notice least are the things carrying the most weight.
Normal does not always mean safe.
This reflection comes from my perspective as a Deaf parent, shaped by my family, my experiences, and the CODA voices I have listened to over time. It is not about speaking for every CODA, but about recognising a pattern that deserves care.
